Obsessing

Obsessing

Is your peace of mind in the present or is it in the past due to your obsessing?

Obsessive thoughts can interfer with your daily life. Your thoughts get
stuck on something, and like a broken or stuck record you think them over
and over and over. The French call Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
“folie de doute,” or “the doubting disease.” And that’s what obsessions are—a single doubt caught in an endless loop of thoughts.
But even those not diagnosed with OCD can struggle with obsessions. In fact, I have yet to meet a depressive who doesn’t ruminate,
especially in our age of anxiety. Every day gives sensitive types plenty of material to obsess about

Name your fear or doubt. By doing so you can rob it of some of its power
over you. Dont jump to conclusions about your fears and doubts. Dont exagerate or discount the positive by thinking that none of your accomplishments count.
Examine how your fears and doubts effect others and what it is costing you. Decide if it is worth the risk of having them reject you. If they reject you then you are a better person for having told them.

Set a time every day for writing it down in a journal or blog how you are feeling. Writing about fears and doubts can be helpful. Its your way of expressing them even if no one reads then but you from time to time. Write out the obsession on a piece of paper. Then crinkle it up and throw it away. That way you have literally thrown out your obsession.

Dont let your fears, doubts and obsessions drag you down.
Ask yourself:
Do I need to change anything?
Can I change anything?
Can I amend this situation somehow?
Do I have anything I need to do to find peace?
Decide what you can change and what you cant.

Dont obsesse over your mistakes. Not where other people are involved and you hurt them unintentionally. Ask yourself what have you learned from not doing it right the first time.

Dont jump to conclusions about what is going on or has happened that youre obsessing about.
Get all the facts and examine them. Look at them before letting them become an obsession.

Dont give in and refuse to let yourself move ahead. You need to forgive yourself.
Forgiving yourself means concentrating on the insights gained from mistakes, and to let go of the rest.You can still live a full life. You do have people who love you.

Until next time I hope that all is right in your little piece of the world.